Exodus 20:14 THE DESTRUCTIVE POWER OF ADULTERY
Intro: Humans are sexual beings! Scientists tell us that our
sex drive is virtually equal to our will to live. This is not a bad thing. We
are this way because God has made us this way. He designed man with a sexual
desire. When God made man, His first command to mankind was for them to multiply.
Now, we all know how human reproduction is carried out. Therefore, we find that
God has made man a sexual being. However, our sexuality has been corrupted by
sin! God’s plan is for the sexual relationship to be between and husband and
his wife only. Any other form of sexual expression, outside of that marital
relationship, is sinful! This is the very area addressed by this 7th
When we think of adultery, we automatically think of a man being
unfaithful to his wife. Yet, this Commandment is far broader than just this.
I personally believe that it encompasses the entire realm of human sexual experience.
Any sexual expression outside the confines of the marital relationship is a
sin against God!
Now, we would all have to admit that we live in a time when sexuality,
and the expression of it, are rampant in our society. Sex is found on the television,
in magazines, on billboards. You name it, in this society, sex sells and it
seems to be what people like, because no one stands against the tide of blatant
sexual expression that is all around. If our society were somehow found by researchers
from a distant time, they would without doubt agree that this is a society obsessed
When Jesus was on the earth, He looked at His culture and labeled
it, "an adulterous and sinful generation." (Mark 8:38) If He were to speak to
our day, what would He say about 20th Century America? Some may ask,
"Preacher, is this material relevant today?" My answer would be, "Yes!" We live
in a world where nearly 50% of all men say they have committed adultery, (Ill.
That is just the number that will admit to it! Researchers estimate the nearly
two-thirds of all married men will commit adultery before the age of 40.) 41%
of married women also say they are guilty of this sin. Is it relevant? "Yes!"
Because the statistics are just as bad for the church! Christianity Today did
a random sampling of 1000 subscribers and questioned them on the matter of Adultery.
45% said they had acted inappropriately and 23% said they had committed adultery.
It is relevant because it has a negative effect on our young people. One-fifth
of youth lose their virginity before the age of 13! It is no wonder that AIDs,
sexually transmitted diseases and unwanted pregnancies are on the increase.
It can all be traced back to a lack of morality and standards at home! When
children see their parents living immoral lives, it sends the massage that sexual
immorality is good and acceptable. Billy Graham, in a recent survey, found that
40% of youth in Bible believing, evangelical churches were sexually active.
He also found that 60% of single adults in these churches were not only sexually
active, but over half reported having multiple partners!
I want you to know tonight that God is still against adultery!
He still hates it and is still punishing those who are guilty of it this evening.
This afternoon, I would like for us to take a few minutes to study this sin
called adultery and see that it is a sin not just against your spouse, but that
it touches every area of your life.
Adultery is a very destructive sin, allow me to show you how!
Adultery is a sin against:
I. YOUR SPOUSE
Adultery does incredible damage to one’s spouse!
A. When a man and woman marry, they become one flesh. (Gen. 2:24.) When one
of the partners joins with a person outside that marriage contract, they have
broken that bond and have joined with another – 1 Cor. 6:16
B. Adultery says to the innocent spouse, "You weren’t good enough for me."
Adultery has the power to destroy the self-esteem of the innocent victim.
C. Adultery destroys trust! Innocent spouse will have a hard time ever trusting
the other spouse!
D. Perhaps this is why Jesus gave an escape clause in cases of sexual Immorality
– Matt. 19:3-9.
E. The marriage must be "adultery proofed!" How is this done? By giving heed
to the command given by Paul in 1 Cor. 7:1-5.
F. Adultery is also an attack at one’s children! (Ill. David’s children followed
in his footsteps. Amnon raped his half-sister Tamar. Absolom took his father'’
concubines unto himself. Sexual immorality has a way of filtering down to
the children.) One’s spiritual influence is also compromised when we stoop
to committing adultery. Children lose respect for a parent that destroys the
family over illicit and indecent pleasures.
II. YOUR SELF
Adultery does incredible damage to one’s self!
A. Adultery, among believers, is the result of being in a backslidden condition.
Then, once that line is crossed, the enemy will continue to attack in that
area. Doing it the second, third, fourth times will not be as hard because
the will has been softened and one’s guard is let down.
B. Many people are guilty of adultery even though they have never had sexual
relations with another person. Jesus wants us to know that adultery is as
much a matter of heart and mind as it is of the flesh – Matt. 5:28. (So called
"girl watching." Pornography, sexual fantasies, etc. All lead to adultery
of the heart and make a person just as guilty as physical adultery!
C. There will be a terrible price to pay for crossing that line – Pro. 6:26-29;
D. Committing adultery will your destroy witness and testimony. (Ill. The
televangelists and others we have heard of here in our own area.) When you
commit adultery just try to tell a sinner how he can be saved! (Ill. Nathan’s
words to David still ring true today, 2 Sam. 12:14.)
E. How can a person guard themselves? Adopt the attitude of the Psalmist
– Psa. 100:3, (Ill. Just ask David what happens when you allow your eyes to
wander – 2 Sam. 11-12). Notice what Job said about this issue – Job 31:1-11.
We are to guard our eyes, our flesh and our mind. If we put the right stuff
in, we will get the right results in return – Phil. 4:8.
F. In our world, it is hard to avoid sexual stimulation. Therefore, we are
to be on our best guard at all times!
III. YOUR SOCIETY
A. As goes the family, so goes the society. When we see the family unit being
destroyed, we come to see that our society as a whole is in danger of collapsing.
In fact, every great empire that has fallen has done so as the result of sexual
immorality! Is America next? It all depends on what we do with our sexuality!
(Ill. Immorality, homosexuality, etc, abound in our day. We need to turn the
tide and doing so demands that it begin in my home and yours. We need to covenant
together and vow to God that we will guard our homes and our lives against
these evil sins.)
B. Immorality in the life of a member of the church can tarnish the entire
work of God. Notice, 1 Cor 12:26; 1 Cor. 5:6. Do not think that your sin is
a private thing, just a little affair that you can hide when you please. In
truth, it is a sin, it is adultery and it tarnishes the name of the church
and destroys our ministry in the community!
C. Adultery is such a sin against society that G. Campbell Morgan said, "The
adulterer is the enemy of the state. My personal persuasion is that it is
an act of treason to the state to allow adulterers and adulteresses to go
free and unpunished. The greatness of a people depends upon the purity and
strength of the people, and in every nation where the marriage relation is
violated with impunity the virus of death is surely and certainly at work."
I agree with that statement!
D. God’s desire is that this type of behavior never find manifestation among
His people – Eph. 5:3.
IV. YOUR SAVIOR
A. Of all the reasons for not committing adultery this is the greatest! (Ill.
Joseph – Gen. 39:9) If you are saved, you will want to please the Lord and
nothing displeases Him more than to see His children committing adultery.
Sadly, this which should be our greatest reason for cleanliness in this area
is often the very last one we consider.
B. God, however, has considered it and has made several statements concerning
1. Adultery was considered the "great sin" – Gen. 20:9; Gen. 39:9.
2. Adultery was punishable by death – Lev. 20:10. He will still deal with
it today – Pro. 6:23-35. (Ill. Eph. 5:1-7; 1 Cor. 6:9-10)
3. Adultery destroys that which was created to be the most visible and
closest approximation of God’s relationship to His people, marriage – Eph.
5:22-23. (Ill. The Song Of Solomon – Many would remove it from the Bible.
They feel that it portrays vivid sexual acts. It does! But, they are between
husband and wife and therefore they are good and pleasing to the Lord.)
4. God’s prohibition against adultery was not to ruin man’s fun, it was
to protect the home which He had established – Ex. 20:14!
C. When a person commits adultery, the cause of Christ is hindered and the
Name of Jesus is dragged down. Our duty is to be as sexually pure as we can
be. We are to avoid any activity that may fuel passion and lead to adultery.
Conc: What can we do to avoid the trap of adultery? There are five steps which
can be taken that will safeguard your life against this horrible sin.
1. Walk With God Gal. 5:16 If we are doing this daily, we
will have the ammunition available to be able to stand when temptation arises
2. Avoid Suggestive Activities Remember the words of Psalm
100:3. Never allow your eyes to behold things that will cause you to stumble.
Keep a clean life!
3. Avoid Flirty Relationships Stay far away from the person
who is flirty, watch out for that "friendship" which could lead to other things.
Beware that you never just "play around" with someone who is not your spouse!
Often, simple flirtation leads to big time adultery! No one just wakes up one
day and says "I think Ill go out and commit adultery today." It is always the
result of things building up on top of other things that leads to that point.
If you can stay from those little things, the big one will never happen to you!
4. Count The Cost Take a minute to look at the incredible damage
that can be done to your spouse, your Lord, your children and your own life.
Nobody, however great the body, is worth what you can potentially lose!
5. Love Your Mate Only Proverbs 5:15-21.
If it is too late and you are guilty of committing adultery, there is hope
and forgiveness in the blood of Jesus. He promises us in 1 John 1:9 that He
will forgive all our sins when we confess them to Him. Maybe it hasn’t gotten
that far, but you are guilty of flirting and doing things that you know are
dangerous. Jesus will forgive that also! Maybe your sin is a secret one, you
look at pornography, or watch and read things that you know cause you to lust
in your heart. Jesus will forgive that too.
Whatever the need, remember, Jesus loves you and He will make it right!
"Thou shalt not commit adultery!"